Have you ever considered that you create your own timeline? Not only the Social Media ones, but the ones that are part of your daily life? In this first of ten short Podcasts for January, I ask what impact you can have on your mindset by creating your own timeline.
I’m Dinah Liversidge and I’m a Coach and Trainer, a Celebrant and co-host of The Charcoal Hut, a woodland cabin in Myddfai, Carmarthenshire. I’m also a no-box-thinker. I believe when we stop trying to ‘think outside the box’ we take away labels and limitations that were always an illusion. There never was a box.
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Dinah
Speaker 1:
Hi there I'm Dinah Liversidge. Thanks for joining me. I wanted to talk about something that I discovered during the last few months of 2020 that had a big impact on my mindset. I discovered that I could create my own timeline on Twitter or do I mean, well, I found that wonderful settings area that allows you to move. And I muted several words. I'd muted accounts in the past, I'd even blocked accounts. There's lots of accounts, sadly, that I'd reported, but I didn't know that I could create a list of words or phrases or hashtags that I wanted to mute from my timeline. And do you know when I did it completely transformed my experience of Twitter. I've used Twitter for almost 12 years and I've always really enjoyed the engagement, but I haven't enjoyed the anger, the name calling, and recently just the absolute lies that get bombarded around. And I noticed that my timeline had a massive impact on my mindset often for hours or even days after I had spent time looking at Twitter. And one day I thought this isn't right, why am I letting people with an anger or a need to shout, ruin my experience of something I've used successfully and positively for 12 years? And so I moved teaching lots of words. And as I say, I created my own timeline and it got me to thinking about the timeline we all create in our own lives. Every day, we have people that we choose and sometimes feel we perhaps didn't choose, but we ended up, uh, allowing into our space, giving them time in our timeline. And it made me think who have I done that with over the years, that perhaps are people who are still in my timeline that probably not supposed to be there. I don't like that word very much. It's not beneficial to me or potentially to them to help them in my timeline. And so I thought about creating my own timeline in a way that had nothing to do with the social media or online newness of it. All. I looked at who I was allowing in my Headspace, who was impacting my mindset. And particularly who did it in a way that I was buying into dramas or I was, um, I was taking on their issues and their concerns and their truths, and they were not beneficial or good for my mind. And the wonderful thing is that as soon as you meet that in your life, in your day-to-day timeline, you very quickly see a big change in your mindset. I can see over the last three or four months, the benefit that has come from giving space to people in my timeline, more time to some people who perhaps in the past, I hadn't appreciated as much as I could have people who, when we spend time together, mutually, we benefit from that our mindsets are stronger because of that. And so I wondered if you would start thinking at the start of a new year about this idea of creating your own timeline and really taking ownership for that. If somebody is bringing you down, if you find yourself thinking, Oh, instead of, Oh, when you have to spend time with someone, think about how precious that time is. If nothing else, the last year has shown all of us, just how precious our time is. So think about anyone who you let into that timeline, do they deserve to be there? Do they add a positive uplifting benefit to you? And do you do the same for them? Because if it isn't mutual, if you're constantly taking and not giving to others, those relationships are not going to last long. You're not going to attract good people. I'd love to hear how it feels to take ownership of your timeline and how you think you can do that in positive ways, because it, it often the first language that will come into our head is the language to stop us, making a change, listen to the language instead that encourages the possibility of what and you timeline could look like for you. You do.
Speaker 2:
Yeah.
Speaker 1:
This is the first in a series of 10 podcasts. I'm going to be doing this January on creating your own timeline. I hope you'll join me in the next one.