No-box-thinking with Dinah Liversidge

Nurture and Nourish your Mindset - February Focus Episode 4 - How are you nurturing you?

February 10, 2021 Dinah Liversidge Season 2021 Episode 14
No-box-thinking with Dinah Liversidge
Nurture and Nourish your Mindset - February Focus Episode 4 - How are you nurturing you?
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No-box-thinking with Dinah Liversidge
Nurture and Nourish your Mindset - February Focus Episode 4 - How are you nurturing you?
Feb 10, 2021 Season 2021 Episode 14
Dinah Liversidge

Being your own 'responsible adult' means making the effort to provide nurture as you embrace a growth mindset.

How are you making time to nurture yourself? What stops you?

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Being your own 'responsible adult' means making the effort to provide nurture as you embrace a growth mindset.

How are you making time to nurture yourself? What stops you?

Speaker 1:

Hi there. I'm Diana Liversidge. Thanks for joining me on my no box thinking podcast. This month, I've been focusing on how we can nourish and nurture our mindset. And today I wanted to ask you, if you had been assigned as your responsible adult, what would you say you're doing really well as defined by nurture? So nurture is to care for, and protect someone or something whilst they're growing. And I would say that we're always enabled by the growth mindset to grow all our lives, but in order to stay in the growth mindset, we need to nurture ourselves. So if that was your job, if your job was to nurture you, what are you doing really well? I know for many years I did very little to nurture me. It almost felt like a guilty pleasure. And I've even heard people say that how guilty pleasure I'm off to the hairdressers , a bit of a guilty pleasure. I'm spending the afternoon with a friend. And that instantly comes with baggage. This idea that it's somehow naughty something we should feel guilt for, but you've all heard that, that saying, however you phrase it, that in order to look after others, we must first look after ourselves. People often draw the comparison of that thing. You hear on the airplane about putting your mask on before you put the mask on your child. And I remember as a young mother being horrified by that, and it took me many years to realize that, of course, that is the right way to do it. Make sure you can survive and be thinking and focused in order to do the right thing to help your child. So where does nurture suddenly becomes something that when applied to ourselves we feel is a luxury or something to not really admit to in public that we do. I'd love you to change that thinking, because if you're going to support your mindset to be open to growth and learning and change, you need a place to go that feels safe and familiar and nurturing. Our mindset is something that really supports that you think about what we turn to with music during times of challenge, it's often a piece of music or a song that makes us feel good, or why does it feel good? Because it connects with a positive memory. And so to nurture can be about we connecting with things that we know, make us feel stronger and more able to step into the change that can come with that growth mindset. A big one for me is being outside. It's often you'll hear me talk about tree time instead of me , time , because nature is a great nurturer. You find that you slow your breathing. I find that just listening to the bird song helps me to quiet, quiet , and I guess the other conversations or thoughts that are in my head, it's wonderful to just be, to be present and to sit without hearing the sounds of technology. You know, even when a phone isn't ringing, they're often these days beeping at you or vibrating at you in some way to grab your attention. And if you really want to nurture your mind, then being in a place where there is no signal where those things can't get into your head space is incredibly nourishing. And I also did want to touch a little bit on the language we often use about the nourishment of food. We give ourselves. I've heard many people say that during the lockdown, they've put on a little bit of weight, hardly surprising. If you consider how many times our movement has been restricted. Yeah . They're talking about it with real guilt. And again, I would say this doesn't serve your mindset. If you are aware that you have put on some weight and you are concerned about it, do something about it. If you've put on some weight and you're using it as a way to beat yourself up and remind yourself of things you're failing at or no good at, then I'd say maybe it's time to nurture yourself a bit more by thinking that that nourishment is allowed, that nourishment that you are aware of is a way of reconnecting with a positive memory or a positive person. Don't beat yourself with it, allow it to be part of the process of nurturing yourself through a really challenging time. And then when you're ready do something about it. I hope that you'll join me in the next episode where I am going to focus on the perfect recipe for you, for nourishment and how you can adapt it in a crisis. Thanks for joining me on the podcast. I'd love it. If you would share it with other people and let me know what you think of the podcast on Twitter at Dana Liversidge. I hope you'll join me next time and do stop trying to think outside that box. It's all a big con.