No-box-thinking with Dinah Liversidge

How do you talk to your Imposter Mindset? Learn a new mindset language

March 03, 2021 Dinah Liversidge Season 2021 Episode 22
No-box-thinking with Dinah Liversidge
How do you talk to your Imposter Mindset? Learn a new mindset language
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No-box-thinking with Dinah Liversidge
How do you talk to your Imposter Mindset? Learn a new mindset language
Mar 03, 2021 Season 2021 Episode 22
Dinah Liversidge

How are you talking to the imposter in your head? You know, the voice that tells you all the reasons you can't. In this episode, I look at how changing the language you use can support your mindset.

I’m Dinah Liversidge and I’m a Coach and Trainer, a Celebrant and co-host of The Charcoal Hut, a woodland cabin in Myddfai, Carmarthenshire. I’m also a no-box-thinker. I believe when we stop trying to ‘think outside the box’ we take away labels and limitations that were always an illusion. There never was a box.

I love being a Coach, a Celebrant and a Host. All these aspects of my life help me achieve that illusive ‘work-life balance’ so many seem to be striving for. Join me in Myddfai in our woodland garden for a #MyddfaiMinute and listen to one minute of birdsong. I hope it brings you some peace.

If you’d like to explore Coaching, take a look at my Mindset Coaching here. 

I hope you’re enjoying my Podcasts. I’d love you to share them with someone you think would get something positive from them. 

Dinah  

Show Notes Transcript

How are you talking to the imposter in your head? You know, the voice that tells you all the reasons you can't. In this episode, I look at how changing the language you use can support your mindset.

I’m Dinah Liversidge and I’m a Coach and Trainer, a Celebrant and co-host of The Charcoal Hut, a woodland cabin in Myddfai, Carmarthenshire. I’m also a no-box-thinker. I believe when we stop trying to ‘think outside the box’ we take away labels and limitations that were always an illusion. There never was a box.

I love being a Coach, a Celebrant and a Host. All these aspects of my life help me achieve that illusive ‘work-life balance’ so many seem to be striving for. Join me in Myddfai in our woodland garden for a #MyddfaiMinute and listen to one minute of birdsong. I hope it brings you some peace.

If you’d like to explore Coaching, take a look at my Mindset Coaching here. 

I hope you’re enjoying my Podcasts. I’d love you to share them with someone you think would get something positive from them. 

Dinah  

Speaker 1:

Hi there. I'm Dinah Liversidge. Thanks for joining me on my No Box Thinking podcast. And this month I'm focusing on how we can learn a new language to support our mindset. Today. I wanted to ask, how do you talk to your impostor mindset? You know who, I mean that voice in your head who constantly undermines you. Who's the first one to say, he'll never manage that. They'll never ask you or, Oh my goodness. Why did I say yes, I'm never going to be able to do this. However you hear that voice, whatever person it, then it's very distinctly in a voice and it's there no matter what age you are, no matter how much experience you have, people have often said, Oh, it's something that's more common in women. Isn't it. That's not true. Um, several studies have shown this impacts pretty much all of us, unless you are actually a narcissist. And I'm very pleased to say they are few and far between, and certainly wouldn't be listening to me talking about mindset. So it's fair to say, if you're listening, then at some point you've had this voice in your head and I'd like you to think about how you respond to it. I guess I was probably in my thirties before I really thought how about if I decided to treat that voice? Like I wish somebody had treated me during my kind of teens and early twenties that time in my life where I felt really misunderstood. I'm not seen as me, but instead , instead kind of labeled because of the age I was or because of what I wore or the color I had dyed my hair that week. But I felt very misunderstood , very unloved and unsupported and overwhelmed a lot of the time. And I had nobody that I felt I could go to and say, what on earth is this all about? And is it ever going to go away? So now I hear the voice of my imposter and I think how about responding with care and nurture and a bit of love because for most of the years, until I decided to do that, I used to get very cross with my imposter . And of course I'm getting cross with myself. So I'm reinforcing the message that, that mindset already has the mindset of not being enough of not being good enough, clever enough, fast enough, thin enough, whatever it is. I reinforce it with my negative talk. But if I change my language and nurture it , if I acknowledge it and say, Oh, look, you're worrying about this. This has got you concerned, unnerved, unsure of yourself. Then I can own it. And then I can say, let's look at some recent evidence why you don't need to worry about this. Let's look at what people have told you in the last week, month year about this, so that you have some current evidence that you can say, Hey, it's okay, I've got this. I'm the adult in the room. Now that imposter is your fears speaking. It's your shame speaking. It's your trauma speaking. Be kind, be kind as one of my heroes, the remarkable Brene Brown would say, talk to yourself as though you were talking to someone you love. When did you last talk to your imposter mindset? Like you love yourself. So start with one phrase from today. The one thing, you know, you say to yourself more than any other and shift that wording to a new language around kindness and support and acknowledgement. I think you're going to find your vocabulary much more supportive for your mindset, Thank you for joining me in the next episode, we're going to talk about what you say. That's keeping you, keeping you small. What is it that you say to yourself to stop you shining? I hope you'll join me. And, u h, you can let that thing you're worrying about. Go. T here never was a box.