No Box Thinking ® with Dinah Liversidge

Nature embraces the change cycle and so can you. What if you changed your mind about your ability to change?

Dinah Liversidge Season 2021 Episode 37

I’m Dinah Liversidge and I’m a Coach and Trainer, a Celebrant and co-host of The Charcoal Hut, a woodland cabin in Myddfai, Carmarthenshire. I’m also a no-box-thinker. I believe when we stop trying to ‘think outside the box’ we take away labels and limitations that were always an illusion. There never was a box.

I love being a Coach, a Celebrant and a Host. All these aspects of my life help me achieve that illusive ‘work-life balance’ so many seem to be striving for. Join me in Myddfai in our woodland garden for a #MyddfaiMinute and listen to one minute of birdsong. I hope it brings you some peace.

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Dinah  

Speaker 1:

Hi there, I'm Diner Liversidge . Thanks for joining me on my No Box Thinking podcast. Each month I take a topic to do with our mindset and do a series of 10 short podcasts. And this month I'm focusing on change . Today I particularly wanted to talk again about the relationship that nature has with change and what we can learn from that. Now, here in the UK at the moment, it's spring, but of course, on the other side of the world, it's autumn will fall. And I see that the autumn teaches us so much. There's that beautiful expression, isn't it? Uh, I don't know who it originally comes from, but it, it basically says, look at the , uh, the trees teaching us again how to let go of things. That beautiful way that the leaves fall to the ground, things die back, they disappear. It's as though there is no life. But of course, it's all going on under the ground and root systems are spreading, and new bulbs are gonna shoot up their leaves again in the, in the spring. And sure enough, here where it is spring, we are seeing that. And so that whole process of the newness, the rebirth, can only occur if autumn and winter are allowed to get rid of last year's kind of end results. To shake off the bad, to let go and say, I'm gonna make space for new things. I'm going to embrace change . As I sit and watch in our little woodland garden, tiny CHS of green come up through the still brown leaves on the ground. I'm constantly reminded of the fact that, that all of life on our planet depends on that cycle of changes occurring. It often makes me laugh here in the UK when we seem to be surprised every year by the winter weather. We say things like, oh, the snow always catches us off our guard. We are not used to it. Well , I'm in my fifties and as far as I know, I've heard people say that most years now, I wonder when we're going to get used to it. How long does it change before change actually feels comfortable ? And so we go on this cycle every year where we complain about the fact that it's too hot or too cold or too wet. And yet we knew the change was coming if we embraced it differently. And I absolutely adore the autumn when it rains really heavily here, because I can go puddle jumping. Yes, I'm secretly four , um, but I can, I can put on my Wellington boots and jump in puddles and make a splash and be like that child enjoying the way nature is changing. And yet, when we take change in a more, I suppose, human way, we are often surprised by it. Look at the changes. You know, if you are lucky will occur in your life as a woman. Some of those are more dramatically marked than they are as a man because of our hormones. But actually the, the path of our lives will be marked by change. What whatever gender we choose to be or to, to embrace whatever lifestyle we choose, whatever country we live in, whatever climate we live in our lives will be marked by change, just like nature is year in and year out. And I do find a great comfort this spring in going outside and saying , oh , you see, no matter how bad and complicated things got last year, spring still arrived. And I know that on the other side of the world, people are preparing for autumn and winter. They still came too , that that change of nature still occurred. And we don't fear that change. So if you were to describe your life as though it was seasoned, which season do you feel like you are in right now? You know, the, the planet repeats those seasons every year. Why couldn't we, maybe the spring that you thought had occurred in your twenties has come back in your fifties. Maybe those changes, which we've talked to ourselves about for so long, can take a totally different path. When we take the lead from nature and say, so what am I ready to allow to shoot up to blossom this month that perhaps I've been a bit afraid of? How could I shine?

Speaker 2:

How could I allow myself to step into that light? All of those changes are going to come up for us. It's whether we choose to see them the way nature does as a natural step without fear. And all of that is a mindset. I hope that's got you thinking, and I really hope you'll join me on the next episode where we're going to talk about just how much change really occurs in your life and help put that in a bit of context. I hope you'll join me. And until then, I hope you'll getting used to the idea that there never was a box.