What could you leave behind and not carry into your new normal?

What if you could leave behind all the old habits, practices and behaviors that you used to dislike about your old 'normal'?
In this episode I explore the idea that you can leave these things in the past.

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:02

Hi there I'm Dinah Liversidge. Thanks for joining me on my no box thinking podcast. I'm focusing on this obsession. Everyone seems to have at the moment about going back to normal, I've never been a massive fan of going backwards. I created a program many years ago that somebody, when I described it to them said, Oh, it's a retreat. I said, no, no, it's the advance because I've always believed that we can learn from our mistakes and our experiences and our past, but they are exactly that they are our past. And so we need to decide every day. What do I take into today? That's been a benefit, a lesson, a positive from my past, but also what perhaps would I be better off leaving in my past? So today I wanted to say, as everybody's rushing back to normal, what are you going to decide not to take into your future, into the normal that you're going to create? You know what I mean? Those things that you used to say, Oh, really, I have to do this again. Or perhaps the things you didn't do, but always talked about doing. And so there was always this sense of, I really want to do that, but I'm not giving myself the time. Perhaps I don't feel worthy of that time. Perhaps the story I tell myself is that I don't deserve to do things that are purely for me. So whatever that story is and whatever it is that, you know, actually it would be lovely not to have every day in your life. As you go forward. I'd like you to take a piece of paper and down the center of the page, put a line And on one side, I'd like you to write belong in my future. And on the other side, belong in my past And then start to list the things that made up your normal. And I mean, pretty much everything. So walking the dog, you know, maybe you've more of that during lockdown and, and a one hour walk a day with the dog in my past, in the future, what I'm going to take forward is three 40 minute walks with the dog. I'm just saying for argument's sake, um, maybe it's something to do with work. So my past, my, my, uh, pre COVID normal was to be in the office an hour before I'm actually contractually obliged to be there. It didn't really serve me. I did it for a long time, but what did I get from it? What, what did I achieve from it? What stories did I use to tell myself to justify it? How about in the future? I will be on time for work every day. And that means 10 minutes, maybe 15 before you're due to be on post. You will be on the premises, getting your coffee or putting on that uniform or putting up your hair under a hair net, whatever it is that you need to do to be ready to start, but being ready to start shouldn't mean having done an hour extra of work that nobody else does. What about if one of the things that you regularly used to do was tell yourself stories that feel like perhaps they were coming from your impostor mindset. Well, perhaps your future could say I'm going to be more nurturing of that. Part of sorry, that part of my mindset that is clearly still not as confident as other parts. So that list is about behaviors. It's about mindset, of course. And it's also about being a little bit brave and being honest with yourself, we have a lot of choices about the behaviors and the stories that we repeat. And if we can allow ourselves to look at them written down on that piece of paper, just for you, nobody else has to look at that. But if you can be really honest and say, I did really use to do these things and wish that I didn't. Well, here's your moment. Here is your chance to say you don't get to come into mine. New normal, my routine, my day to day, the way I treat myself, the way I nurture and look after myself, the mindset I'm creating you as a way of being, or thinking or doing you don't belong in that. I'm going to take you forward

Speaker 2: 6:18

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Speaker 1: 6:22

I hope that's got you thinking today. Please don't keep the podcast to secret. I'd love you to share this with others that you think might enjoy challenging their mindset a bit. And also I'd love you to connect with me, do connect on Twitter at diner Liversidge and join me the next time. And remember, you don't need to think about thinking outside the box when you're really sure there is no box.